July 13: Do not give up love, not unless love has given up on you

July 13,2014

Having been in a long term relationship once, there are a lot of lessons that have been gained, challenges that were faced, problems that were solved. Once you learn to fight for what and who you love, that’s the time you’ll understand what it means to stay and be in love. 

This is the reason why I do not understand people who just throw away love because of petty misunderstandings. They always tell me that they do love their partner so much but after a day or two break up because of simple things. Some of their reasons were they just don’t get along anymore, they do not have time for each other, they are taken for granted and all those petty matters. People may be raising their eyebrows or scheming a way to get back at me because I’ve been belittling the reasons why most couples break up but I know those reasons deserve to be belittled. 

We got through all those problems too so I know what I’m talking about. We broke up once too because I thought I was taken for granted but then when you realize that both of you just lack communication which is essential in a relationship, you’ll then see that your love for each other is stronger than your problems. 

I’ve been with friends who were on the verge of breaking up because of the problems stated above and for those of you who are going through the same path, not only to make you feel better but also to make you realize that you are one lucky person to experience such mundane situation; I’d tell you, I’ll give anything just to be in your place and not in mine. 

I know that it’s difficult getting through misunderstanding and misconceptions, that’s why they’re called challenges, problems because they are complicated and they are meant to be solved.  Why do I look so confident saying that they’re easier to overcome? It’s because, I believe that they are not enough grounds to give up love. 

Where am I getting at? The pain brought by simple misunderstandings couldn’t compare to the pain of someone who used to love you so much but left because he no longer feels the same. In this situation, there’s no turning back because two essential things in a relationship are lost: the love from the person who left and trust from the person who was left behind. Those things are not easy to take back. As I’ve said a while ago, I would give anything to have misunderstandings and taken for granted issues any day as long as the love is there, just unexpressed. Trust me, it’s easier.

 What binds the relationship is the brewing love of two persons. Now, for those of you who feel neglected by your partner but you know that you still love each other; don’t ever think that you will no longer fix that. As long as the love is there, the trust is present; everything will fall to its place. Once you know that the relationship is worth fighting for, then go for it.

Given what I’ve been through, here are some pieces of advice for everyone who feels like giving up just because they no longer get along with the person they love.

1.      1. Stop throwing away love like it’s just a bag of garbage. Think before you do something as stupid as that. It’s not easy to find love because not everyone is privileged enough to find something worth fighting for. Appreciate what you have because once it’s lost, you could never get it back again. DO NOT GIVE UP LOVE, NOT UNLESS LOVE HAS GIVEN UP ON YOU.

2.      2. Communicate. You feel neglected, tell your partner; you feel unhappy with the relationship but you still love your partner, tell him/her. Communicating how you feel is one manifestation that you want the relationship to work. You can’t just wait for them to discover how you feel especially when you act otherwise. If you’re hurt, tell them so they would know and they could do something about it.

3.    3.  Love. Love because it’s the most beautiful thing that a person could experience. If you found someone who loves you just as much as you love him/her, don’t let each other go. Don’t go through  the process of losing someone if you could do something so as not to. Love, because not everyone is lucky enough to love and be loved.